Advice to Myself

Tonight I am going to meditate on a spotting phrase that I love.

• You can't control your outer environment but you can control your inner environment.
• When you are in a situation that later bothers you, there are things you can do to reduce the amount of time you waste thinking about the bothersome situation.
• Remember: You can't control another person and their behaviour, attitudes, actions, words etc..
• When you remember that you release alot of the anger that you have about the problem.
• Thinking about it for 2-3 hours or even days will not change the person, it will only make you more upset and waste your time.
• Remember: If this person is a brother/sister in the LORD - remember and meditate on the fact that Jesus died for them too and God loves this person even when you don't. (I find doing this is the most calming - I then realize I am not any better - it's all grace)
• Remember: To think of three statements that will clear your mind of the issue. For example:

1. That is a problem between so and so, I can not fix it - it's not my issue.
2. I will pray for this person because of all the bitterness involved.
3. I will pray to the LORD that words like that will never come out of my own mouth or into my own heart and that I may show grace to everyone.

This is a very basic outline of how to implement this phrase - find your own ways to use it in your life :). Have a blessed week!!